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THE POWER OF BELIEF

I have talked earlier about how belief-systems can influence, not only our behavior but also our health. A few times I have had clients with, sometimes serious, dis-ease. During the course of treatments this changed. I don’t look to “heal” people, that’s not my business, but I help them to understand themselves and their reactions better and along the way they heal themselves, once they find balance and peace within. If a person seriously believes that his/her problem will create more ill-health, it will. And they will constantly be waiting for it.

I worked with a man who had a heart-condition; his heart would start racing out of control. It all started at a difficult time in his life and each time he saw his doctor he was told that this would get worse and probably kill him. He was on double medication and the doctor was pressing him about getting operated with a 50/50 chance of recovery. During the months that he saw me the occurrence of his heart racing dropped little by little and he stopped one of the medicines on his own. (I never meddle with people’s meds, that is between them and their doctors.) We worked with the original cause, his stress-management and talked about what he experienced – making him aware of himself and his reactions. When his heart sometimes would start racing, he could bring it down with simple relaxation-techniques, such as breathing. Still his doctor told him his condition would get worse and eventually kill him. The guy just stopped believing it, because he could feel himself getting better and found that he could control his problem when it would arise.

We believe what we are told, especially if the person who tells us is somebody we give authority.

The power of belief is much used within sports, for example; Part of coaching is strengthening the winning belief. You can run faster and jump higher. Much work goes into visualisation and mind-movies, creating the idea of success in the individual. This goes for all situations in life; if you truly believe you can succeed, you probably will. Every time we say “I can’t do that”, we obviously won’t be able to. But do you remember the time when you wanted to do something so badly that you could “taste” it? And how it became possible? This is what I am talking about. Everything is possible! Belief starts in the head and we need to stoke it, make it burn high. That is when we will succeed. Don’t listen to all the negative remarks, just stick to your belief and go for it! It’s all about your personal power.

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SELF-HELP

There is a saying; “don’t give them fish, teach them how to fish”.

Many people who  come to see me want a “quick fix”, hoping that I will wave my magic wand and all that is difficult will just vanish. It doesn’t function like this. We have become so used to the quick fixes of medicine and drugs, that we have become unaware of how we live and influence our lives. When there is imbalance, be it physical, emotional or whatever, something needs to be changed and a quick fix only postpones this moment of change.

Often people are shocked by what they need to do to change a negative situation; nutritional habits, sleeping habits, medication, drugs, thought-patterns…. and they get upset by this. Well, we often sit in our imbalanced situations because we allowed ourselves to get there through bad habits and/or choices. We are all responsible for our lives and we are the only ones who can change anything. And no, it’s not easy – but who ever said it would be? If we really want something badly enough, we go for it – no matter the cost or work it entails. This is how we should live our lives.

Some people call me a life-saver, thanking me for saving their lives, others say that I do nothing for them. To both groups I say the same: “I am only a tool, albeit a very good one, but you are the one doing the work and using me as a tool. Results or no, it’s all up to you”. And the people who do the work and stick with it always, ALWAYS, reach their goals. Sometimes we fall down, or off the wagon, but that is also learning, look for the mechanics; why did it happen? then get up, brush yourself off and get on with it. Nothing is ever lost because of small “mis-takes” on the way, but they can be valuable lessons and keys to success.

Everybody can do it


HOW DO I KNOW…?

A lady asked me a very important question; “How do I know that I am on the right track?” (the “right track” being whatever you are undertaking at the time.)

Yes, isn’t that always the question? how do I know? We want clear-cut answers all the time; a sort of step-by-step blueprint to life. That would be so easy and we would never need to worry or bother about much – but this is not the point. The point is to learn, experience and understand a bigger picture…the bigger picture being the Self. Everything we undertake comes to a point where it meets with adversity, sometimes over and over again, but who-ever said it would be easy? If something is difficult, chances are that we abandon it…never reaping the rewards of reaching our goals. Look at the video above…all successes that started out in a struggle to reach their goals. If we are not prepared to fight for what we want, the risk is that we will never have it.

Set-backs are learning processes, not defeat.

There is no way of knowing exactly if you are on the right track. Usually the question itself spells out fear and disbelief. Since we know that this is a programmed response to anything new, we need to step away from the negative thought-patterns and look from another view-point. There are some key-points:

  • Is it joyful and exciting?
  • Do you believe in it?
  • Are you getting some results, even though they might be small?
  • When you meditate, can you clearly visualize your goal?
  • Does it give a meaning to you?
  • What are you prepared to give up?

Why would this not be the “right way”? Because it is about you? Do you believe it would be okay for somebody else? Do you put less belief in yourself than in your environment? and if that is the case…Why? Maybe this is the biggest problem of all; our lack of self-esteem.

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Everything starts in the Self, it is the birth-place of reality.

So:

  • Be good to yourself
  • Meditate and breath
  • Visualize and make it as real as possible – if you want to achieve, you’ve got to believe.
  • Talk to somebody who will support you
  • Keep a diary, write down your goals and wishes
  • Always see set-backs as something to learn from
  • Show people who you are, don’t wait for them to tell you.

And now for a little laugh…