Tag Archives: Personal development

THE COACH

Compact Oxford English dictionary says:

Coach: noun 1 an instructor or trainer in sport. 2 a tutor who gives private or specialized teaching. • verb train or teach as a coach.

”A coach just has a different perspective. The coach can see what you can’t see because you’re in the forest and they’re outside of it.
To me, a coach is not better, they’re a friend, they’re an equal, they’re there for you, they’re somebody who cares deeply about your well-being but they’re also incredibly skilled to help guide you at the moment you really need it
.”
-Tony Robbins

The key-word here being guide.

I always considered myself being a therapist; helping people when they needed it. I was always good at understanding what’s going on in people, so it is quite natural for me to work professionally with this. Now more and more people call me a coach, which I never do. So I decided to look into this whole coach-thing and see why I am suddenly a coach…

First of all I realized that the word therapist is connected to imbalance & need, and many people don’t feel comfortable with this. Coach, on the other hand, implies strength & choice. To me they are only words, but words are important; I call people who come to me clients – they come by their own choice because they want to change or balance something in their lives. To me they are never patients – which to me sound like a passive acceptance of something out of control.

So back to coaching: As a therapist/coach I back people up and I guide them to find their ultimate path in life and the strengths they have. I also guide them in understanding and finding acceptance of sad or negative actions/re-actions.  I believe everybody can change and re-create his/her  life if and when needed. I care deeply about the person in front of me and I am non-judgmental. Of all the things I learned during my years of listening and inter-acting with others, the most difficult was being non-judgmental; liberating myself from my own values, ideas and programmings. A session of “coaching” is always about the person asking (the client). The coach/therapist is a tool for personal development – be it sport, health, studies or anything else.

I am also a coach as in teacher: I train health professionals in different specialized areas such as essential oils, motivation etc. I also give work-shops to people who want to know different stuff.

Besides which; a coach is a carriage, which I find a bit funny. Don’t really know how the words connect, but maybe the coaches around the world carry the people to results…?

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THE OBSERVER EFFECT

I stumbled upon this blog today, and I found it really interesting, if you are interested in physics, take a look. I found this film and decided to share it with you  – the observer effect. It ties in nicely with what I have earlier written about thought-patterns and creative thought. Tell me what you think.

MOTIVATION

This is something that has been popping up a lot lately; for myself, my clients and also as a workshop I am doing with some other people.

So what is motivation? The most basic motivation is survival; we’re all genetically engineered to be motivated for that…and we are prepared to do anything it takes – even if we might not believe that from our comfort zones. But this is “cave-man-level”. What about motivation from a perfectly normal point? How do we find it, and more important; how do we keep it?

Habits are strong powers in our lives; how we eat, exercise (or not), smoking, drinking, sleeping… to change any of this takes a tremendous effort. Our thought-patterns are also part of our make-up but in a much more subtle way. Habit and thought-patterns are the biggest influencing powers when it comes to motivation and follow-through. The more comfortable we are, the harder it is to keep up motivation; but when something happens, such as a disease, suddenly nothing is to difficult to beat it – motivation is up and running 100% = survival motivation.

  • Set a goal.
  • Set a time-span. With larger goals it is important to break it down into smaller parts to ensure that you succeed by reaching these smaller parts. This spurs you forward to the next part-goal.
  • Find your motivation. WHY do you want this? Make this very clear to yourself and write it down so you can see it every day. Make it your mantra.
  • Motivation stays 2-7 days maximum, then you have to review it, tweak it, re-kindle it. If not, you will just quit here. This is the toughest part because this is where mind-set or thought-patterns kick in. And if they are negative, motivation is out the window.
  • Find somebody to hold you responsible. It is much easier to re-kindle motivation if you have somebody trusted to pep you and push you forward. When you feel motivation flagging, talk to this person.

When you are changing something or trying to reach a goal you need to be very clear and specific about what you want. This needs to be “larger than life” in your mind. Because you always start out enthusiastic and full of self-confidence, making some very powerful “feel-good-hormones” move in your system. But after a few days “normality” leaks in, negative thought-patterns make themselves heard and you feel low. At this point most people quit, this is the difference between winners and losers; winners just keep on working on their goal, no matter how bleak everything might seem, they dredge up their motivation from under the stone where it hid and kicks it into life again. The clearer your picture or idea is, the easier to get back on track and stay there.

There are always solutions.

Here are 2 movies to depict motivation, I find the first one horrible…it’s extreme and might have the total opposite effect – demotivation.The second one many of you have already seen. It is truly about motivation, Nick Vujicic is the man! This, of course, is my point of view, for some video #1 is truly motivating. Whatever makes you tick…

I would love to hear from you on motivation; ideas, experiences – anything – share!

“MELTDOWN” training/diet

Now I will tell you about this training/diet program I am following. I chose to do it for my health; I want to stay strong, lean and fit so I can better enjoy my life. I know it’s only up to me, so when I was offered this chance, I grabbed it to “kick-start” myself. Many people found it strange that I would start such a hard-core program on the first of January, others think it’s crazy to invest so much energy, but this is something I do for myself, a measure of how much I value myself. I am prepared to take 30 days and totally concentrate them on me. It is also about motivation and self-control, I need to know that I am creating my life, that it is not “just happening to me”.

The program is called “Meltdown” and is put together by London-based personal trainer/coach Dax Moy. You can find him and his work on this link:

http://www.londonpersonaltrainingstudio.com

The program runs for 30 days, every day, and consists of 2 parts:

  • The Elimination Diet (ED) which can be downloaded free from above link.
  • The training program: Every day without fail you train 4 times/day for an average of 15-20 min./session. Every 5 days the program is changed to maximize the results. The exercises are all different, targeting every muscle in your body.

While I am on this program I receive all the information I need via internet. Also what nutritional aids I need to take, when to tweak my diet and why and some pep-talks. The information on new exercises are done both in writing and with pictures/movies. Very detailed and very clear.

I am now doing the 12th day of this program and I am feeling fantastic, energized but also tired. I can feel a dip. What is amazing about this is the awareness it creates about body and mind. I feel more balanced than since….I can’t even remember (and I am quite a balanced person).

In the last post I talked about soreness and stiffness. Well, that has all passed some time back, but training every day has left my muscles slightly tired and sensitive, so I have made a new oil that I now use before training:

  • Rosemary (rosmarinus officinalis) 15 dr
  • Lemongrass (cymbopogon citratus)  15 dr
  • Ginger (zingiber officinalis) 15 dr

Blended in 30 ml vegetable oil. Again, this is a strong dosage, and it is good to do the sensitivity-test before using. This blend helps with circulation and warmth (ginger) since I tend to easily feel cold (especially now – what is with this arctic winter!!!) I also take magnesium to help with the energy metabolism and muscle function as it eliminates acids from muscles.

Other nutrients during this 30 day “ordeal” 🙂 are: Multivitamin, omega-3, zinc, barley-grass and chlorella. I also make sure that when I buy my food, I look for the best, most nutritious I can find.

I AM

I still haven’t gotten my computer back, but here is a small meditation for you: Sit or lie quietly and comfortably, make sure you are warm. Close your eyes and breath deeply…within yourself repeat these words:

I Am
I am Safe
I am Secure
I am Peace
I am Love
I am one with the Earth and the Universe
I Am

Give this a few minutes morning and evening for a few days and you will feel a big difference within. I do it before getting out of bed in the morning and before falling asleep in the evening. And every now and then when I feel worried or insecure…and sometimes just for the peace and happiness it brings me.

FREE X-MAS GIFTS!

Every year, starting 12 days before Christmas, a bunch of professional trainers, nutritionists and other health-professionals give away free gifts such as training-programs, nutrition-tips and more. Last year I signed up and got so much great info. This is an excellent way to check out what is going on and to inform yourself to start living a life of better health, more energy and greater lust.
To sign up follow the link below: I don’t seem to be able to activate the link on this computer, so cut and paste the link below.

http://www.12daysoffitness.com

My ordinary computer is by the doctor (indefinately, it seems) so my blogging will be sporadic at best. Sorry about that. The one I have access to (this one) is like 10 yrs old and slower than slow. So no pics I am afraid…

BELIEVE

How many times do you think these people were told that their dream was not possible? Did they listen? Whatever it is you want… listen to your heart – it will always lead you right.