The Road-trip I took was actually a quest; something I have known for years had to be done but which I also dreaded, pushing it on the future year after year. And now I did it! Though I had second thoughts when cars kept breaking down…
Life is a forward motion and we have to leave things behind, it’s as simple as that. The place I have lived and loved almost my entire life is one of them. Somebody else owns it now and it has become my past. I choose to go forward, not backwards and that means that I have to let it go. I will never go back there again and it is liberating. What surprised me was that it was easier than I thought. 🙂
I left for my trip with no expectations, my only focus was to make closure with my past. Along the way situations, people and places happened and I had the time to just be in it. Instead of going into the past, I found myself in the present and the past had lost its grip on me.
Letting go is empowering and it opens up for so many new and different possibilities, some (or most) of them completely unexpected. Life is truly an adventure.
Posted in Life, Musings, Personal development
Tagged adventure, being in the present, forward motion, freedom, going into the past, letting go, The quest, travel, unexpected possibilities
I think this is the most important question we can ever ask – about anything: “Why do I want this?” “Why do I react like this?” “Why do I do what I do?”
Little children ask “why” all the time and it usually drives adults crazy because at one point we can’t answer anymore. This is the point where it is smart to say “I don’t know…”
While training to become a therapist, I learned about communication skills in relation to a client. In this training we were taught never to ask why; because it is too pushy, forces the client’s hand…Whatever. Instead you should ask round-about questions such as; “what would it do to you if…”. I am fine with this but I truly don’t understand the taboo around “why“. It is a simple, straightforward question that really puts things into perspective.
The why is what drives us, our motivation and our lust. Without a why, there is no forward motion. It is the best question if you are looking for information, any information; “why does the sun go up?” If you no longer have a curiosity to why things happen (or don’t) you are in a rut or a depression. You have stopped moving forward and life is probably rather bleak. You are not interested in knowledge, understanding or change and you probably lost connection with yourself.
When I ask you: “What is your dream?” and you need ages to think of something, you have a problem. If you finally come up with an answer but don’t understand why you want it, it will never happen. We move forward on our why’s; by knowing and understanding what we are looking for we can make it happen. If you are just looking to get rich, it won’t happen. But if you can figure out why you want to get rich, it might happen. The same goes for everything; if you don’t know why, how will you ever find a reason and motivation to do anything? Once you start asking why, you might even find that your wish or goal is quite different from what you originally thought and voilà! you learned something about yourself.
So; why am I writing this blog? Because it matters, the things I write about changed my life (and others) so much to the better and I want to share that. BUT, when I started writing this was not clear to me, I just wanted to make myself heard.
Go ahead; pick a topic in your life and ask the why’s, over and over again, until you reach your deepest want, lust or fear and you will find your road to success.