Category Archives: Personal development

What are you prepared to give up for life?

Mother Earth is suffering, worse, she’s seriously sick, and she needs help NOW. Right this minute and every minute after that for as long as you can imagine. This is reality. Mother Earth is our life-support and when she suffers, we suffer. She is ill and so are we. The question is; what are you prepared to do, or give up, to save her…And yourself?

It is daunting, isn’t it? Multinational corporations that can’t be touched, using up, polluting and destroying our world. We feel very small in their shadow. We rave and we rant, looking for “clean” solutions, which is good but only goes so far. We live in a world where we take the results of this destruction for granted; electricity, fuel for our cars, foods from everywhere in our corner-shop, new machines, technology…Most everything that we use and feel we need – Every day! What are you prepared to give up? Will you exchange your car for a cleaner alternative, or maybe start commuting? Will you stop buying stuff? Will you turn off your electricity even though it is not a question of economy? Will you keep your old telly, computer, stereo, phone that still works fine and forego the fancy new model? Will you start repairing your old clothes instead of buying new? Everything is limited and everything has a cost. There is no such thing as unlimited resources.

Earth Hour; one hour per year people turn of their electricity to make a stand for Mother Earth; that’s one hour out of 8 760 hours in a year. Why am I not impressed? A lot of people won’t even do this one hour, I have heard some of the comments; “what should I do for one hour without my machines…?” And during this one hour, closed stores are still lit up like Christmas trees so we can look through the window and drool over all the stuff we think that we need or want.

People; if you want change, you will have to be the change. We are all consumers and as such we hold tremendous power. The multinational corporations might seem daunting and we stand before them as Don Quixote before the windmills. But we are the world! Every little person put together become the ruler, but only if we are prepared to put it into action. So again; What are you prepared to give up for life?

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Today is my Birthday

Anna prof,bildToday is my birthday, I am 52 years old. Not that the age matters much but I feel so funky being past 50. I am more than half a century old, I have lived 2 lives already and still I have a whole life (or maybe more) ahead of me. Between the age of 24 and 33, I had 4 children and I made a commitment; “I will be there for you until you leave me”, and I was, I organized my life around them, to always be there. Now, as my last child is leaving me, I am free to make a new commitment and it is to me: “I commit to fulfill my wishes and make my dreams come true”. And boy, do I have dreams, big dreams!

gul ros i halvskuggaAs always with life, possibilities come when there is time and space for it, we just need to want it. My dreams were always there, but as my commitment was to something else, there was no space for realizing my personal dreams. Now, as life has shifted, once again, the possibilities are all there and opportunities flow onto my path.

Today is my birthday and I am celebrating the amazing path of life; both the pain and the joy. Every little thing that ever happened to me to bring me to this place and make me who I am today.

Make appointments with yourself

lukta blommaThis is something I learned the hard way; after years of having my calendar solidly booked, day in and day out in a most merciless way, I crashed. I didn’t notice it coming, one day it was just there; a complete and utter emptiness in myself. Between running a company, caring for 4 children and a small homestead I had forgotten myself. I wasn’t suffering, not at all. I was enjoying being busy. It wasn’t dramatic in any way, my head just went blank, that’s all, and blank it stayed. I rearranged my calendar, cut down on my bookings and took a long hard look at my priorities: “What is the most important thing to me right now?” The answer was “my family”. Not me, which I seemed to have lost along the way, or my work but my children. And I realized that “me” was also my children, having time to grow with them, they were the one thing that could not wait and the only way I could be the best mother possible was by taking care of myself.

KONICA MINOLTA DIGITAL CAMERAI started writing myself into the calendar; riding, baking, sewing…with the children. Such happy times and it didn’t matter that my head was blank, it just made it so much better. It was hard, at first, to say “I am busy” since I considered only work as being “busy”. My booked time for hanging out in the field watching ponies didn’t feel like a good enough excuse to not work, and I felt like a cheat. But I got over it. I didn’t leave empty spaces in my calendar because I would have booked them for work. No, I painstakingly wrote my diverse activities in there, just to block the space and make sure that I stayed as true to myself as to my clients. I learned more about myself and how we function as human beings during that time than ever before.

rida merlinNow my children are all adults, my work is my passion and I can spend time doing just that; my work. I still book my private down-time in my calendar and stick to it even though I sometimes might be tempted to put myself in second place. I have learned that the more I care for myself, the better I can care for my work. You can only give so much without becoming lousy for your passion; be it your family or your work. So do it, book that bath, movie-time, hack, pottering in the garden, staring at the sky…all the things that make you happy and you’ll be the best thing that ever happened to yourself and others.

When was the last time you did something for the first time?

ClownEsperanzahOr when did you last do something you usually do, but in a different way? Or when did you again do something you used to like but stopped doing?

Habits tend to envelope us like a costume over time and as the years go by, the costume gets ever tighter until our thoughts and bodies become restricted. The older we get, the more stuck we are in our habits and the more loath we become to change them. This is where we stop going forward; we judge everything according to old conceptions and experiences that might no longer be valid, only to find that the same stuff keeps happening over and over again. As Mr Einstein said: “Insanity  is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Recognizing and changing habits is not always so easy, you have to pay attention to yourself. We react according to our belief- or thought-patterns. Start changing stuff; one thing (or thought) a day. Take another route to work, try new food, colours, clothes..Re-arrange your living-room. Take time to listen carefully to what you hear and find new ways of assimilating information. Learn to live in the moment and allow every new thing to be just that; A new thing. Ask questions.

Living in the moment is not about floating around, being unorganized or just living for the moment day by day. It’s about being there; in an open and receptive way. By experiencing the moment and learning something from it, no matter how insignificant. You never know when that insignificant piece of information may actually come in handy… And trust me, it will, sooner or later. Until then you can enjoy small pleasures that give lots of joy…Gunga

Money; where does it come from? and where did it go?

Times are hard for many people as global economy topples and there is not so much we can do about it. People lose money, jobs and homes…All due to economy, and frugality becomes the name of the game. The same goes for when we want something that entails money; we need to get that money, or not spend it.

For the last 20 years it has seemed to me like people are under the impression that everyone can be a millionaire and that is how it should be…Seriously? Of course it all crashes. Problem is that along with this notion came extreme expenditures and nobody saved for a rainy day, now many don’t know how. And while weeping over a lost car, backs are turned on opportunities.

Cleaning up your food will save you loads of money; start cooking. Smaller car maybe? Smaller house? Only on these 3 points, you can save a fortune. Interestingly enough, when you start cutting your expenditure you also start living a healthier and more sustainable life.

What can I say…?

Sometimes I wonder about this guiding, or teaching, thing; What am I doing here, what makes me think that I can really give anything new. It has all been said and done, through centuries. The basic rules for humanity is no secret, we all know it; it’s called moral and ethics and even if we didn’t have it as a guidance growing up, we always know in our hearts what is true or not and when we transgress its borders, we are aware of our transgression. We always know, even when we don’t want to.

Today I spent some time with a dear friend, and along our easy togetherness I found this:

“To learn is to find what you already know. Your actions show that you know. To teach others is to show them that they also know .” (Richard Bach “Illusions”)

So you see what I’m saying; It has all been said, the wisdom is dormant in us all, what more can I say? But if I can be a stepping-stone along the way…It is a good thing ❤

We are responsible for our reactions

I read a story somewhere that goes something like this:

A woman steps on the bus to go to work in the morning and the bus driver is very rude to her. Her good mood plummets, making her upset and angry. As she gets to work, her mood infects those around her, creating a bad vibe in the office. Who’s fault is it? The bus driver or the woman’s?”

It is, of course, nobody’s fault. Fault is always an excuse for not taking responsibility. The bus driver was in a bad mood for whatever reason, that is his responsibility. The woman could have chosen to report him, ignore him or get angry. She chose to get angry and she chose to spread it on to her colleagues – her responsibility. If her colleagues react badly, that’s their responsibility.

We are all responsible, not only for our actions but also for our re-actions. We can always choose what we wish to have triggered in us. Our reactions are not put there by whatever/whoever triggered it, they are ours, that which we carry within. Nobody puts anything into us, or make us feel a certain way, we do.

There is no way of controlling that which is around us, none whatsoever. But, we can control how we react to it. By being centered in ourselves and keeping our balance within, we are so much more able to deal with what goes on around us. This is the only kind of control that is guaranteed.

Everybody can do or say or act in any way they like, but we don’t have to take it. If somebody is being nasty to me I walk away. I have no right to tell them they are “not allowed” and they have no right to demand that I take their nastiness. By unplugging from the person, I unplug from the bad situation and I can walk away without allowing it to destroy my day. My choice is to not allow myself to be triggered. Big lesson, not always so easy but oh so liberating!