My grandfathers name was Valentine. My father in law died on Valentines day, I found it sort of beautiful; he was so ill – and old – that his passing actually became an act of love. My mother in law said it was because he hated the whole thing, and she was probably right, but I stick to my romantic notions because they are prettier…
Love is in the air and so is despair. Around Valentines day my heart goes out to all lonely, abandoned and heartbroken people. It is like the whole world is enhancing the loveless-ness, much like Christmas. Therefor I am, today, creating blends to heal broken hearts and cover the wound of loneliness as well as blends to enhance love, affection, and lust.
The oils that are most associated with love are:
- Rose (rosa centifolia, r.damascena) Opens the heart for love
- Jasmine (jasminum officinalis) The enigmatic scent of sensuality
- Sandalwood (santalum album) Stillness and unity, balsamic.
- Bergamot (citrus bergamia) Relaxes, releases and refreshes, joy to the heart
- Patchouli (pogostemon cablin) earthing and arousing. Playfulness
- Ginger (zingiber officinalis) warming and invigorating
- Ylang-ylang (cananga odorata var. genuina) Joy and sensuality, liberation
- Black pepper (piper nigrum) Fire and power. Energy
There are plenty of oils that fit in there as well, but these are the most popular and best known. Use your imagination and have some fun.
The oils that will help a broken heart and/or loneliness:
- Marjoram (origanum majorana) Warmth and safety in loneliness
- Cypres (cupressus sempervirens) Opens and guides for new directions, change.
- Frankincense (boswellia carterii) Spirituality, protection, warmth. Breath of life.
- Lavender (lavandula augustifolia) restoring, calming, eases the mind,
- Cedarwood (cedrus atlantica) stabilizes and opens the mind to a larger picture
- Rosewood (aniba rosaeodora) protective warmth like that of a mother
- Hyssop (hyssopus officinalis) opens the chest and breath, liberation
- Myrrh (commiphora molmol/c. myrrah) tranquillity, solitude, peace
- Benzoin (styrax benzoin) soothing and stabilizing. Enveloping sanctuary.
- Clary sage (salvia sclarea) Relaxing, expansion, warmth
Use oil-blends in the bath before meeting with your lover – or your self. 10-15 drops of essential oil in 15-20ml of unperfumed soap or cream. Add the oil-blend right before you get in, and swish it around with your hand.
- Sensual: Ylang-ylang 4 dr + Ginger 3 dr + Sandalwood 5 dr + Patchouli 3 dr.
- Uplifting: Bergamott 4 dr + Black pepper 4 dr + Ylang-ylang 3 dr
- Invigorating: Ginger 3 dr + Black pepper 3 dr + Patchouli 2 dr + Bergamott 4 dr
- Love: Rose 2 dr + Sandalwood 4 dr + Patchouli 3 dr
- Passion: Sandalwood 4 dr + Jasmine 2 dr + Ginger 3 dr
Use the same blends of essential oils in 5-10 ml veg. oil blend, preferably Jojoba-oil, for a sensual perfume to wear during the evening. You can also use these blends to scent your room; either put them in an aroma-burner / fan (3-7 dr depending on the size and ventilation of the room) or blend them in distilled water; 5-10 dr/ 100 ml. Shake well before use and don’t spray directly on surfaces.
Citrus-oils and rosemary can be used in any blend as an enhancer or pick-me-up. Many of the oils used for love are also used for loneliness. Have fun with the oils and don’t be afraid to experiment. Remember to always start with a lower amount of drops, this way you can smell if the scent is balanced and you have a chance to change your blend as you go along.
- Loneliness: Marjoram 3 dr + Myrrh 3 dr + Orange 5 dr + Lavender 4 dr
- Sadness: Lavender 4 dr + Frankincense 3 dr + Hyssop 4 dr + Clary sage 2 dr
- Despair: Benzoin 3 dr + Rosewood 4 dr + Cedarwood 4 dr + Myrhh 3 dr
- Changes: Cypres 4 dr + Rosewood 4 dr + Clary sage 3 dr
- Love: Rose 2 dr + Marjoram 3 dr + Rosewood 4 dr + Myrrh 3 dr
Note: The oils of Rose and Jasmine are very expensive but the scent is strong so they go a long way. In true perfumery musky and deep earth-notes are used in perfumes, such as spike-nard, valerian and oud. They enhance the more flowery smells and act as fixatives. A blend should become one distinguished perfume, not a collection of scents. If you want your perfume-oil to deepen in scent, you should blend it beforehand and let it “mature”. You will notice the scent changing and deepening over time.